This is one of these posts that are more difficult to write than others.
I always thought I don’t have many regrets. I have taught myself to see potential failures of the past as opportunities to learn.
I have learnt to regard the past as illusion and the future as real. And every day is a new beginning!
In her book “The Top 5 Regrets Of The Dying“, Bronnie Ware talks about five main points people regret:
1. I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself.
2. I wish I hadn’t work so hard.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish I had let myself be happier.
None of these are points I regret, because luckily I was taught by my parents – and later learnt on my own – how to do what I think is right and not what others want me to be.
Since I took care of that one first, I avoided all other regrets.
Or at the very least, it seems easy to me to just become happy about my life, even if I am in a bad mood.
However… let’s put my feet to the fire. Are there actually points in the past I do regret?
It is not enough to just tell ourselves we are happy and then never work on moving towards our dreams and visions.
A good rule of thumb whether we are on the right track comes from Ed Latimore.
To me, the way we overcome regrets consists of three steps:
1. Be honest and ask ourselves whether we have any regrets.
2. Is there also something positive that we can take away? What do we really regret? Reframe the regret – if possible – as demonstrated in the article about 10 Hard Gratitude Problems.
3. Device practical steps to avoid the mistake in the future.
So without further ado, I will go over 10 regrets that sometimes still come up in my mind, show how I reframe them and what I am actively doing to avoid them in the future.