How often does that happen to us? We are in a discussion, someone makes a comment and we would really like to counter the argument… but of course, in the heat of the moment, words elude us.
In the past, I would just take that as “given”. I thought you had to be a born “smart-ass” to outwit the others.
Having a great response to any argument, though, is a skill you can learn.
It works best if you take the statement or criticism somebody made at face value, just assume you agree, run with it and then turn it up a notch. Accept and exaggerate.
Often, these responses can actually improve bonding between people. If they have a sense of humor. If not, they are not worth befriending anyway. This is serious business! Don’t you agree, my friend?
So becoming a good comedian takes time. Decades! But being just a little bit funny can nicely break the ice (this is the point where you either smile and agree with me or leave me while thinking about dumping a whole wall of ice on me).
Are you still there?
Great, because here is my list with witty comebacks and statements… possibly inspiring you to craft your own responses, if your mind normally stays empty.
#1 – “Yes, you already made that observation before.” – “See? Must have been a good observation then.”
This excuse often comes from people with a scarcity mindset – they are worried about how they come across to other people.
So that way, they are setting themselves up for failure.
So right away, my answer would be:
“Dressing perfect will not make you rich either – so let’s go ahead anyway.”
Long-term answer is:
“(1.) Go around with dishevelled clothes on purpose and see what the precise impact is – probably next to nothing. (2.) Arrange your life so you are able to take care of dress, money and apartment in the future.”
Strive for looking good, but don’t tie your self-worth to your appearance.
That’s a good one, even though I personally almost always want to do them. Because I discovered writing as a passion. Maybe that’s the key. Make every effort to love what you do.
Disregard “do what you love”. If you do that, you will be productive in any situation.
One way to keep on going on days you really don’t want to is to announce on twitter that you are about to write down your ideas. Another way is having a buddy around.
Here is a list of 11 other ideas that could work for you to get you motivated to do anything. I hope they are useful for you! Workout, talking to people when you don’t feel like talking, gratitude habit…