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    How To Argue And Win Every Time (Gerry Spence)

    Gerry Spence is one of the most successful trial lawyers in American history; his portfolio includes the Karen Silkwood case, the defense of Imelda Marcos on racketeering charges and numerous others. He has not lost a civil case since 1969 and has never lost a criminal trial by jury.

    “How to Argue and Win Every Time” is a great read and taught me a lot not only about having an argument, but about communication. When we want to win an argument, we don’t throw verbal rocks at your “opponent”. We open the other person up to our side of the story and enable him to join us in our key arguments (or at least meet us halfway). That way, we end up with a mutually beneficial situation, a “win-win”.

    The following video is from a mock trial with Gerry Spence.

     

     

    Spence divides How to Argue and Win Every Time into three main parts.
    In the first part, he talks about mindset and the basics of communication – storytelling, body language, tonality and the choice of words.
    In the second part,  we use these tools to structure a winning argument.
    In the third part, we apply these principles to the most common scenarios in real life – the family and the workplace.

    In “Bachelor Pad Economics“, Aaron Clarey makes the case to use truth and facts for our arguments. Gerry Spence gives us the tools to open the other side to our arguments.

    Since the fundamentals of a successful argument are rooted in communication, this book is useful beyond the courtroom:

    1. for anyone who wants to learn more about storytelling;
    2. for anyone who wants to develop his charisma;
    3. for anyone who wants to learn about emotional honesty.
    Taking the “jump”, the leap of faith on chances life throws at him is a big part of the book.
    We learn how to communicate with others… and ultimately that begins and ends within ourselves.

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    Benjamin Franklin: Original Prankster And Minimalist

    Benjamin Franklin is one of the leading personalities in United States history. He is the only Founding Father who signed all four major documents that gave birth to this country (Declaration of Independence, Treaty of Alliance with France, Treaty of Paris and the United States Constitution).

    This is the review of “The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin”. You can buy the book from Amazon here:

    Since Franklin is a figure of such historical significance, I have also included links to some of the books he read and articles he wrote throughout the text.

    I have mostly focused on his personal life and habits, development of his social skills and starting his newspaper. The way Franklin went about these items can still teach us something today. I will explain his political career and scientific findings in a later article.

    Benjamin Franklin

    Next time you throw a “Benjamin” around, you know whom to thank…

     

     

    Franklin’s autobiography includes the years from 1706 to 1757. We learn about a man who approaches life from a “can-do” spirit, who takes it on with wonder and curiosity and as someone who genuinely likes people.

    He is a leader, but early on, his peers do not always take kindly to him taking the spotlight. He learns from his mistakes though and molds himself into a beloved statesman highly regarded for his diplomacy, pragmatism and capability of “getting things done”.

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    One Juice Per Day, Single Malt Edition

    Thanks for tuning in – way past my bedtime, and I am too tired to write a full-fledged journal post.

    However, “One Juice Per Day” has to be drunk…

     

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    Ripley’s World: The First Steps To More Money, Part I

    Where am I right now and which direction am I headed?

    You struggle with your finances and would like to have more. But you can only improve if you have a clear definition of what works for you. Simply wishing “I would like to have more” does not really work. You need a structure, a goal and a purpose.

    Thus, you can use these three steps:

         1. Record where you are now.

         2. Record where you want to go.

         3. Ask yourself how YOU can achieve it.

    You see, totally easy. And yes, I am serious, it IS easy. A sample of how it works?

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    Silencing Dissent

    This article is related to an incident that happened in the middle of november.

    Silencing dissent

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Mike from dangerandplay.com has written about it:

    http://www.dangerandplay.com/2014/11/18/go-full-gorilla/

    There are two other excellent articles on this topic here:

    http://thefederalist.com/2014/11/17/rocket-scientist-matt-taylor-shot-down-over-his-impossible-big-lebowski-style-bowling-shirt/

    http://www.avoiceformen.com/featured/grasping-at-the-shirttails-of-shirtstorm-blaming-men-in-academia/

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    NoNothingNovember, Day 28

    NoNothingNovember is almost done…

    Today is the last big push for upgrading and adding to my blog.

    I have a lot of free time over Thanksgiving.

    It is especially important that I stick to very regular schedule on these days, otherwise the free time is gone very fast.

    I realize that a regular job provides one big advantage – it provides an automatic schedule and structure for the day.

    It takes a little bit of a mindset shift to regard working on my blog as regular job.

    But every time I am writing on here, it is so fulfilling, because this work is completely mine. So I am starting the day and ending the day a happy person!

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